My daughter is 13 years old almost 14 and is obsessed to the point she is addicted to becoming a furry. At first I thought it was harmless when she was younger and thought it was just a little phase. After getting contradictory information via internet and actually seeing videos being sexually suggestive - made me start to shut this idea down. She would stay in her room hours on end and just pretend and dress up as an animal while recording herself. My daughter has a very low self esteem and not sure why, she’s a beautiful girl. She doesn’t have many friends and struggles to make bonds. I have seen attempts at friendships but hasnt made a real connection with anyone from school. She doesn’t have much self confidence but feels like she does hiding behind a mask and pretending to be a dinosaur. Everyday I’m still making her brush her hair brush her teeth shower. She is not concerned with good hygiene. I’ve told her if she just put half the effort she did in being a furry into herself in real life her self confidence would flourish. She just recently received her phone back after months of not having it (during which I never heard anything about furries anymore) and just recently made a friend who she seems to connect with. Today the furry conversation came about along with an hour long discussion about why I don’t agree with it and her begging and throwing a tantrum. These are my concerns
1) She already doesn’t have self confidence. Being young I think she may regret when she’s older, looking back and still being bullied for choices she made while she is younger. 2) She carries the behavior on in high school and is bullied - and goes deeper into feeling awful about herself resulting into something that would devastate our family 3) Her obsession and willingness to trade everything else such as her gaming console and her cell phone. I feel that if the obsession is that great it is an addiction and seems unhealthy. 4) I want her to build self confidence in her REAL life not hide behind a animal mask for acceptance of strangers on the internet. 5) Exposure to the side of it that’s not appropriate
I’m at a lose as to how to handle this anymore.