Me and my now wife are living together since January. We ended our previous marriages in order to be together and we still have issues with her ex-husband to this day. She has a 12yo boy from her previous marriage who lives with us. I have a 5yo daughter who stays with us on weekends, but since the covid outbreak she has stayed every other week with us.
Although we have several issues in dealing with our family arrangement, I’d like to ask about the relationships between our kids. The young one loves her new brother and wants to be with him all the time. This annoys the older one, which is a more reserved boy and wants to be alone with his videogames most of the time. This upsets him and makes him sometime treats her bad such as complaining a lot at every little thing she does, cutting her off when she talks, and so on.
It’s very hard as parents to deal with two very different kids coming from different upbringing, and we are still understanding the different ways in which we have raised our kids before getting together.
I’d like to get some advices on how to deal with this issue. In particular it breaks my heart when I see my daughter getting such a hard time. On the other hand I don’t want to be so harsh on the boy because this sometimes upsets my wife.