My two-year-old daughter has significant allergies (dairy, egg, wheat/gluten and peanut) and she's been significantly underweight for the past year (10th percentile). We've had her on a special diet and formula to get her weight gain up and it's helped a lot.
We've always had an issue with her seeing our food and wanting to eat it. Her diet is also quite limited and she's very interested in our food and I've always felt so bad she can't have any of ours. We have usually tried to eat things she can't have when she's not around. This has meant we've eaten apart from her quite a lot, something that doesn't sit well with me. I really treasure the family mealtimes I had as a child (even though I didn't as much at the time) and I would like that too with my family.
We would like to introduce a family suppertime where we sit and eat together, and we tried today but she got really upset and wanted to eat our food instead of her own. We have our own dietary needs that are somewhat in conflict with hers (my husband is diabetic) and it's not really possible to eat only foods that are safe for her for supper.
I want to do a family mealtime, but I also understand that it may not be something she is able to understand, or it is unfair on her to expect her to not eat what we eat. Is there anyway we can go about introducing this in a manner that is easiest on her?
(I don't want to punish her for wanting to eat our food, or anything like that, I try to stick to positive discipline as much as possible and want to respect her and her autonomy and wishes as much as possible).