My nephew is 7 years old and is use to leading the games and make believe we play. He often decides what games we should play and exactly how he wants to play it, down to telling me what I should say and how I should act when were playing together. His 4 year old sister is quite complacent and generally goes along with playing the games the way her brother wants to, more then most siblings would.
He doesn't get too mad if someone doesn't want to play the game he wants, he is worst at taking turns at playing games other's want then the 'average' kid, but not terrible so. The problem isn't that he wants to pick the 'game' to play, the problem is that when we are playing something he wants to play he wants to dictate exactly how the game should be done, and doesn't like if someone deviates from his script. When I was playing along with what he wanted to do he has told me no I didn't say it quite the way he wanted me to say it and that we should try it again.
When he is with other kids his age he doesn't seem to get that those kids may not want to play things exactly the way he wants to play. The kids playing with him often ignore his dictates on exactly how they should play, and while he doesn't necessarily get angry at them for that he just keeps repeating himself and trying to help them 'understand' how they should play rather then trying to cooperate to find a way they can play together. This has lead to bait of parallel play where both kids are playing something, but not really playing together with each other because the other kids are no longer willing to follow his dictates and my nephew is still trying to structure the play exactly the way he envisions it. Sometimes he will simply wonder off and play by himself if he can't get the other kids to join in with his idea of the game also, but he still isn't learning how to cooperatively play with his peers. I'm afraid his peers will eventually get frustrated with this behavior and not want to play with him, or always refuse to play 'his' games, because of this.
I'm trying to figure out how I can show him that it's okay to modify a game and play it in ways other's want to play it, that he shouldn't always dictate the script for how other's play with him. In this regard his sister's easy going nature is almost a detriment, since he is use to dictating how she plays with him and she is his most common playmate.
Should I explain to him that there are games I don't want to play with him precisely because even I get bored with them when he won't let me get creative or modify the rather repetitive way he want's to play? How do I encourage him to be more adaptable in how he plays with others, to adjust the play based off of whatever creativity or idea the other kids may have?