My daughter will only let me put her to bed in the evening and not my wife. In fact she will not respond at all until the morning to her, whether its getting up for a pee or a wander or a drink. It must be daddy take her to the toilet or put her back in her bed. She is always fine with me and will do what shes told and will go back to bed no problem. When my wife gets involved she hides behind me, tells my wife to go away, that she doesnt want her etc. Its really quite hurtful and it has been going on for a year now.
I have a 3 year old girl and a 1 year old boy. When my boy was born (a year ago), my wife had so stay in hospital for a week which left me looking after my daughter for a week. We were not able to visit for several days. After the birth I tended to put my daughter to bed and my wife would deal with my newborn.
We have a simple routine where I read her 3 books, then turn the light off. She asks me to stay with her, which I do and involves sitting for a few minutes before she nods off. I used to lie in the bed and do this but I have not done this for a while, I just sit /lie on the floor for a few mins. I have never minded doing this as I work all day and only get to see her a short time before shes sleeping.
We have tried various methods to try and have mum put her to bed but its always the same outcome. My daughter will get more and more worked up to the point she is severly distressed, shaking and crying.
Does anyone have any advice as to how I can get mummy back into the picture at night and be able to put her daughter to bed?