I have a 7 y/o 2nd grade boy. He’s really talented academically, especially in the reading and writing areas, but he is lacking socially. I’ve noticed it when watching him at classroom events, the t-ball dugout, play dates, and other kinds of outings.
He has a hard time socializing with kids his own age, often times acting immature. He gets along well with adults, family, teachers, and kids younger than him too. He seems very eager to please. Sometimes though he interjects himself into adult conversations at inappropriate times with some immature comment or nonsense words. Maybe this is just attention seeking behavior?
But around kids his own age he either acts quiet and reserved or completely immature. Around his 4 y/o brother, he acts down to his age instead of being the more mature one at times. He also often easily gets upset and almost starts to cry. Sometimes we ask him why he is crying, and can’t come up with an explanation other than ‘I don’t know.’
Other thoughts: there was a few birthday parties in his class that he wasn’t invited too. There was a get together at a family friend’s house that we weren’t invited to following a poorly emotional playdate.
Also, I guess you could say my wife are a bit more strict as far as behavior expectations are concerned. I’m not sure how much this could play into the overall social interaction situation.
I’m not really sure where to beginning researching how to improve his social skills, or how to give him the right tools to better succeed in social avenues with kids his own age. A quick internet search popped up some results for Asberger’s Syndrome. I am far from an expert in this category, but my instinct doesn’t feel like this is a match. I don’t know that the spectrum is wide and varied, and perhaps this does need some more looking at.
We’ve asked his teacher, but she hasn’t given any useful input, and said he’s ‘normal’. I’m a teacher too, albeit for middle school age kids, but my wife and I are worried that he is going to end up lonely and friendless, in which he might end up unhappy and socially anxious for a long time.
Any idea of where to look for further help? Are we overthinking this?