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I have a 10-year-old son, who has a "fixed" way of doing things.

He will always insist on sitting at the same place on the Sofa, always have the same Chocolate ice-cream, always want to be the first to read the newspaper, etc.

He just does not want to change. I always try to make him try new things like new food, new ice-cream, new ways of doing things, etc. But he will always refuse it.

How do I make him try new things in life?

And yes, if he does not get things the way he always had, he will get very upset and angry.

NOTE: He does not have any intention to trouble anyone. It's just that he has a fixed way of doing things and does not like that to change. As a parent, I want him to try new things in life. But he does not like to try new things.

  • You mention things that inconvenience others. Are there things he does consistently that don't inconvenience others? That is, is this across the board (possibly pointing to neuroatypical) or just done to annoy (possibly just obstinance)? Have you had conversations (not arguments) with him about this? What did he say? How do you handle it when he gets upset and angry? Details and motives would make the answers much more helpful. Right now, we'd be guessing. If he's neuroatypical, guessing won't help at all. We do want to help, so please edit. Thanks! – anongoodnurse Nov 10 at 14:49
  • @anongoodnurse He does not have any intention to anyone or trouble anyone. It's just that he has a fixed way of doing things and does not like that to change. As a parent, I want him to try new things in life. But he does not like to try new things. – meetpd Nov 11 at 12:20
  • Thanks for the comment. Please edit the post to include all of the information I asked about. Thanks. – anongoodnurse Nov 11 at 15:08
  • @anongoodnurseI have updated it. – meetpd Nov 12 at 11:05
  • Please edit the post to include all (or at least most) of the information I asked about. This is an edit, but adds nothing not stated in your comment. See my first comment. If your son is neuroatypical, ritual or sameness may be important to him. If he is not, it's different. Details like that help us to understand and to give better and more helpful answers. – anongoodnurse Nov 12 at 14:25