My preemie (3 months early) girl is almost 2yrs old now. She's tiny compared to her older sister who was 3 months past due, but completely healthy.

My little one has started to cry-then-whine about 2-3 times per night (last around 5 mins), and then be completely awake at 5:30am. She goes to bed at around 6:30-7pm every night. Has a solid 1-2hr nap at daycare (completely uninterrupted).

During the nightly whining, she does not wake up at all. She tosses and turns, falls out of the bed and sleeps on the floor, sideways in bed, I mean if she could she would sleep on the ceiling. She is in her teething stage right now and just started to walk a bit more than a month ago (she's almost running now). She also does a lot of baby talk (seems like she's thinking about what to say, but can't just yet). Her psychological functions are there: recognizes actions and objects, cleans after herself - sees her older sister do it, and repeats it, runs for hugs, etc.

I just don't know what to do to have her sleep normally. This started around the same time as teething, 2-3 months ago (mind you, she's getting a lot of teeth much sooner than her older sister did).

  • Concerned Father aka. only male in the house next to the intact dog whose a suck for girls
  • By sleep “normally” do you mean silently, and without changing positions or falling out of bed? Are you concerned her whining and crying out indicates distress? – Jax Nov 3 at 18:07
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    What do you mean by '3 months past due'? A 12 month long pregnancy is unusual... – DarcyThomas Nov 4 at 7:17
  • Not an answer, but ave you considered putting her mattress on the floor? Falling out of bed is rarely dangerous, but it can be, and it's never pleasant. – anongoodnurse Nov 5 at 3:01
  • @DarcyThomas Quite. A year and 10 days is the longest gestational period record created by a woman in 1945. – learner101 Nov 5 at 11:44
  • I feel pretty strongly that the teething/sleep whining correlation is no accident. Her teeth likely are hurting/uncomfortable, but not quite enough to wake her. – Meg Nov 14 at 20:23

I get the feeling you are trying to find a solution to a what you interpret as a problem and probably is just fine.

My guess is that your interpretation is further influenced by the fact your daughter was born prematurely and your first kid did not do what the second does.

What you describe is a very healthy little girl developing just like one would expect it! I suggest you concentrate on this. She's "completely healthy", "has solid, completely uninterrupted naps", "does a lot of baby talk", "runs for hugs" aso. Like any kid that age, she "tosses and turns" in sleep.

The only thing I see is that she "falls out of the bed and sleeps on the floor". Just like anyone else, that should not stay so. It's ok to try to have her sleep without side bars but if she keeps falling, step back. She might not be ready yet.

My daughter is a few months older and really disliked sleeping without bars so we installed them back. She had episodes of night whining too that naturally disappeared after a while. She also had a very long episode (4-5 weeks) of sleep coughing. That did not wake her up, though, just like yours, and that did not visibly tire her either, so why worry?

Like we did in this case, go to the doctor if you wish to make sure it really isn't anything serious. And if it really isn't, then let your daughter be and it will go eventually. Kids have such phases that come and go.

Sometimes there is only a problem in the fact we think there is a problem. Focus on the positive, less on the negative.

Wish you and your family all the best!

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