This is regarding my son who is 6 years old and is studying in Grade 1. We got a call from his class teacher that he was caught "cheating" during dictation assessment. Actually, we revise the words at home and give him a small paper with the words so that he can revise it on the bus before reaching school.
The teacher told me that he was looking at the paper during the assessment and he was taken to the supervisor and vice-principal office and was questioned. During the interrogation, he admitted that the paper was given by his mother and he confessed to looking at the paper during the assessment.
I was furious, so I called the vice-principal and asked why a 6-year-old was shamed and that child doesn't know the concept of cheating. The VP told me that he was not shamed in front of the class but was brought to her office and she asked the reason, so my son told her that he was afraid that he might get fewer marks and parents would scold him. My son was weeping and he was consoled and returned back to class. The VP told that it was a small matter and she will again speak with my son.
First of all, we never force our children to get good grades. We made it very clear that they should try their best and if they got bad grades, there is always the next opportunity and it is not a problem. He is a brilliant child and it is a shock for us on how the class teacher dealt with him.
Now, my concern is how to deal with him when he reaches home. I am not furious about the "cheating" scene but I am concerned about the psychological impact which would have happened to him. I am going to re-stress that it is not a problem if he got bad grades in spite of trying his best. During the weekend, I would be personally meeting the teacher and vice-principal to make my stand clear that it was wrong on their part to take the matter so seriously. They should have just ignored it and informed us and we would have dealt with it in a very calm manner.
Any suggestions or advice on how to deal with this? Thanks in advance.
UPDATE: The VP called us again separately and explained that the situation was handled in a very professional manner and she told me that my son was told that he will have to take the test again the next day as he had two wrong answers. Moreover, when my son came home, I asked him casually what happened at school, which is our usual daily interaction, he told me that he was taken to the vice-principal office and she told him that he has to take the test again tomorrow.