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I'm 23 with goals and dreams I want to accomplish. I used to see my family almost every day and not staying focused on what I want to do with my life. I've been in a relationship with an awesome woman who supports and encourages me in my goals (get my own car, my own apartment, gaining weight, second job, school, etc.) I spend a good a amount of time with her. After workdays we go to the gym and workout together, we spend time planning out how we're going to make our goals happen and I train her and her best friend in boxing (I want to open a gym and train kids and teens to keep them off the street and have something to do, I want to be a good role model for them.) To make a long story short thanks to work, the gym, and spending time with my lady, I don't see my family as much. I'm a big family-man, but I see my family twice a week at best and I can tell me not being around as much is making them upset resulting in attitudes when I am around them and short conversations. How can I talk to my family about my need to spend time working on independent goals and developing my own interests?

closed as primarily opinion-based by Anne Daunted GoFundMonica, Joe Jun 5 at 16:59

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    Hi and welcome to Parenting.SE! Please take the tour and read the help center. Unfortunately, your question is primarily opinion-based and therefore not suitable for our Q&A format. It's not up to us to decide whether you are wrong or not and our opinion(s) won't help you much. Instead, rather ask for advice on how to accomplish something. – Anne Daunted GoFundMonica Jun 5 at 16:55
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    @Pascal - It is entirely opinion based. That you say it is not is your opinion. We have a help section that addresses this, titled "How to Ask". – anongoodnurse Jun 6 at 1:29
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    The post contains 2 questions: "Am I wrong for this?" and "Am I wrong?" It's a poll and such questions are not deemed a good fit for the SE model. They allow for 2 answers, "Yes" and "No", and their score decides whether the OP is wrong or right. That's not really helpful. Instead of trying to reopen it in its current state, rather help the OP change it so 1) it becomes on topic and 2) the answers are helpful to the OP and future visitors. For example, how to handle it when they are upset, how to explain why so few visits, how to explain the relationship to them etc. Whatever helps the OP. – Anne Daunted GoFundMonica Jun 6 at 13:54
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    @philosodad But what is it that he needs to talk about to his family and make them understand? It seems to me that that's what you actually deleted - their perception of the OP's relationship being the problem: "They think just because I'm in a relationship that I'm "too deep in" when it's really because she supports me and we always make sure we're pushing each other to achieve what we want. Am I wrong?" and not just in general following their own dreams. – Anne Daunted GoFundMonica Jun 10 at 15:18
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    I don't understand why this question got closed, since every single question on this site is opinion-based – David Jun 12 at 15:38