My 4.5-year-old often insists on certain things that seem to suggest he has some issues with flexibility. For example:
- He wants the green straw not the red one
- He wants to wear a different shirt to bed
- He wants a very specific toy
- He wants to sit in the same spot at circle time in school
In most of these cases he gets pretty emotional and upset until he gets what he wants. Now I realize this is somewhat typical behavior for his age, but at the same time I'd like to help him adapt some more flexibility to these type of situations.
What we've been doing til now is mostly just using a method of distraction, kind of like what people do with babies when they try to calm them down - e.g. "hey look at this cool new pen I just found" but I'm not sure if this is the right approach. Also, in some cases, I will simply just give him what he wants because it's easier.
But I came here to ask for advice on what the right approach is, and how you think I should deal with these types of situations. Appreciate your inputs!