My daughter has been practising the violin with the Suzuki method since she was 3.5 years old and she is now 6 (so 2.5 years practising). However she's never really wanted to.
She has struggled severely to learn the instrument. It took her 18 months to learn the first song - Twinkle twinkle little star. We effectively let her drop a year after the first year because she was so far behind the other children. We have effectively practised every single day during that period.
She now can play until the 8th song but again is falling behind.
- Verbally wants to stop, says that she never wanted to start
- Never wants to practice, we have tried different times of the day, giving stars where she gets a gift after getting 10 stars
- The violin school is a great place, it's a very friendly community that does everything together on a Saturday morning - there's nothing like it anywhere near us
- She is ingraining bad habits - holding the bow, holding the violin, posture
- She will do the absolute minimum in group lessons by just pretending to play with her fingers
- We've been considering quitting for over a year
- There does seem to be more of a problem than just motivation, she gets very confused with similar song structures and seems to forget what she has learned very quickly
- She can learn to sing the songs - and sing them very nicely
- She has made it to song 8 and is slower than the other current students but not as bad as with the first year
Clearly we are pressuring our child into doing something she doesn't want to do. But what will be the consequences of giving up?
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Pressuring is really a balance I think; I felt some pressure with continuing my instrument, but I am happy that my parents were persistent. Learning to give up at the first hurdle is not a good lesson.
Do we persist but somehow relieve the pressure? Give up and leave it until she shows some interest (but I'm not sure that will ever happen)?