Capitalize on this opportunity
I believe that one of the best approaches you as the parent can have is to use this situation to strengthen your son's character. As parents our first instinct is to protect our children or make the immediate situation more tolerable or pleasant for them. This 'reaction' is similar to wanting to eat desert at every meal. It seems better at first, but in the long term it is not as good.
With no threats of violence or harm being involved so far, I think this is a grand chance to grow moral character. The situation is emotional and inescapable since they go to school together. Capitalize on this and make your son stronger for adulthood.
You can't and shouldn't try to control others
Let this other boy do his thing. While it is true that there is some initial pain from other people accepting the lies being told, it is inevitable that situations will occur where other students get first hand experience of your sons personality and character. These experiences will overcome any slander.
Key point - let the other boy do his thing, you focus on yourself
You have choices to do good or bad things
Everyone has the ability and opportunity to hurt other people. We all live at the mercy of those around us. If your son desires to grow into a true man he will take the road of caring for others, even those who hurt him.
Key point - don't waste your time and emotional energy trying to get
back and hurt others, focus on the friends you have.
Life goes on, so do you, keep growing
It is easy for me and most of us to think that some situation is life shattering. Except for death this is not true. In basically every situation some practical advice is always best, focus on yourself. Focus on any tiny or big thing that you can do better in this situation.
Key point - use this trial to better yourself. Be a stand up guy and own up to anything you did wrong, even if it is 1% to his 99%.
- You don't do anything with the other kid or his parents.
- Guide your son through understanding that his best interests are served by building his character.
- Be patient and realize this is not earth shattering and it is not the last time someone will slander him.
- Watch a video and then decide if you think you should watch it with your son.
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