Our 8½-month infant sleeps in his own crib inside our room. He was born 2 months early, so his adjusted age (equivalent age for a full-term baby) is about 6½ months and his development is approximately at that stage according to our pediatrician.

I've read several about babies sleeping in their own rooms as early as one week after birth. The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests that waiting at least 6 months mentions that this view is shared by the UK Department of Health:

On the basis of their study results, investigators in Scotland endorsed the United Kingdom Department of Health’s advice that the safest place for an infant to sleep is in a crib in the parents’ room for the first 6 months of life.

We are considering moving our child to his own bed since he is at the equivalent age of a 6½-month full-term baby. However, we still have a few questions for those that have dealt with this decision before:

  • Are there other medical aspects to consider before moving the baby to his own room?
  • Based on your personal experience, what challenges should we expect?
  • Also based on your personal experience, which of your worries could have been dismissed?
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    You really need to drop that "should" :) There are precious few real "shoulds" in parenting. Weigh up the pros and cons, discuss with your partner, and make your own mind up. Don't let anyone tell you what you "should" do... (except me, right now)
    – Benjol
    Commented Nov 28, 2011 at 12:18
  • @Benjol: Thanks for your insight. I reworded the title of the question. The body of the question already requests well-informed recommendations.
    – Jaime Soto
    Commented Nov 29, 2011 at 4:00

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As a parent of two young daughters (2 years old and 3 weeks old), I know how tough it can be dealing with putting your child in another room. Essentially, the reasons you keep your child in your room are out of convenience (you don't have to trudge to the other room just to change a diaper or breast feed) and genuine concern (if something happens in the middle of the night, you want to be able to find out as soon as possible).

For the first reason, after a certain amount of time, the drawbacks will outweigh the benefits. The longer your child takes getting used to sleeping in a seperate room, the harder it will be (imagine the difference between moving your child now and when he or she is 2 or 3 years old - perhaps an over exaggeration, but probably not by much). You also will be unable to be intimate with your partner with your child in the same room (or for that matter just to settle down to watch TV or read a book), and the clothing will start piling up very quickly (and soon you may find yourself trudging to the other room anyway to get some fresh clothing or sheets).

As for the second reason... well, that's one of the hallmarks of a good parent, someone who worries about their children (but as long as you don't overdo it - hovering over your kids will be just as damaging as if you left them in the same room with you). What you can do is get a baby phone - essentially a small monitor that will transmit your child's sounds to your monitor in your bedroom. This will allow you for the first few months you move your child to their own bedroom to regularly listen in, in case they start crying.

The biggest challenge you'll have is having your child get used to the new sleeping arrangements. This will take probably at least a week before your child accepts sleeping in another room on their own. When doing this, you may want to use the egg-timer method - let your kid cry it out for 5 minutes, then come in to comfort them, and keep extending the time between when you hear your child crying and when you come in (I would recommend starting this on a long weekend, if possible - in that way, at least you don't wind up a zombie at work the next day).

Another challenge you'll have is simply general worry. I had this with my first daughter when she started sleeping on her stomach. I would walk in, see her lying face down, and flip her on her back. After awhile, I got comfortable enough with the idea of her lying on her stomach (and now that she's in her own toddler bed, sleeping with a pillow, albeit a specially designed child's pillow). The thing here is that you shouldn't walk in every 5 minutes to make sure everything is fine. If something, heaven-forbid, were to happen to your child, it could very well happen while your child is sleeping in your room and you're all sleeping soundly.

Basically, when moving your child to their own room, make sure it's THEIR room (I.E. not a computer room with a crib in it). If they have some stuffed animals they like, put them in the room to make them feel more comfortable in the room. Do diaper changes and clothing changes in the room. The more they associate the room with their regular routine, the easier they will have to accepting being in their own room.

  • This post is exactly what I would have written or said. I couldn't have worded it any better.
    – kasdega
    Commented Nov 29, 2011 at 5:20
  • As an anecdote, we put our daughter in her own room on the day we she came back from the hospital - we made this choice because my wife couldn't breastfeed. We started using the eggtimer method with a 20 minute time, but we go get her almost as soon as she cries once she has fallen asleep or if the cries turn from tiredness to distress. Now, three month later she sleeps from 9 to 7, and cries - if she does - for 5 minutes top.
    – MakorDal
    Commented May 3, 2016 at 8:57

Personally, I would keep your son in your room until he is ready to graduate from the crib to his own bed. He will be ready after he's started walking and is attempting to climb out of the crib. At that stage, a bed will be the safer option and in most cases the only place it will fit is in another bedroom. I wouldn't be worried that keeping him in your room for the whole first year would somehow hold him back developmentally.

Our first son thrives on routine and hates change, so we thought this would be a difficult transition for him. We needed to move him to his own room at about 18 months because our second son was about to be born. We didn't want to wait until the last minute, otherwise he might have thought he was being replaced with the baby.

We started reading him a Sesame Street book called "Big Enough for a Bed." We bought a toddler bed (it can adjust to a full-sized single bed) from Ikea and set it up in his bedroom with all his toys. We got him used to being around his bed just by getting him to play in his room with his toys. We would talk to him about the bed and get him to associate it with the book. Then one day, we put him in his bed for his afternoon sleep. Despite our fears, he took to it like a duck to water. So we put him in the bed that night and had no problem. I think the preparation helped.

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