I am a single gay man and earlier this year I moved in with my disabled parents to help them care for my Nephews (7 and 10). I have been very active in their lives and was always aware of their eating habits and just assumed they would grow out of it. They refuse to eat anything outside of Pizza, Chicken Nuggets, French Fries, Ramen, and random snack stuff that is as equally unhealthy. No exaggeration here. I stopped buying this for them but my parents keep giving them candy and buying this stuff.
I tried to make them play outside and they would stand in the street crying. Eventually we agreed on inside Youtube workout videos but we went to McDonald's and one was trying to order a 20 piece chicken nugget happy meal. Sometimes they do not each lunch at school because it is not pizza or chicken nuggets and last week both ate an entire box of pizza rolls (140) each and within three days after going to grocery. I was finally able to talk them into trying yogurt but they stopped eating it once they realized bits of strawberry were inside.
I have not at any point tried to make them feel fat or tried shaming them about their appearance. I have only communicated we need to eat more healthy, myself included. My oldest Nephew has started to wear a medium hooded pull over to school and we live in the South and it is very hot here still but he says it is not for any reason other than he likes and I just know he is made fun of so he is trying to hide his weight from others.
I do not have kids but I have stepped into this parenting role as best as I can, waking up at 6:00 am and homework and such I had no idea how hard this can be so hats off to all of you here because this is not easy but I've tried everything I can think of to get them eating more healthy. Please help.