My ex wife and I live 2000 miles away from each other. The children are with her. We have been separated for over seven years, divorce will be finalized in the upcoming months.
My eldest has Asperger's syndrome, as do I. Up until this point, I have always been able to talk her down. Since we think very much alike, this has been easy for me to do... until now.
She is now 10, and soon to be 11 and the meltdowns have gotten worse and the fact that she has started puberty early is likely contributing.
They are starting to get severe enough to start to cause medical concerns.
- She is eating less than she should, leaving her severely underweight
- She is hyperventilating
- she will stay in this state, and being unconsolable for hours at times.
So, my question is twofold.
- Are there any relaxation techniques or other ways to break her out of the obsessive cycle she gets in when having a meltdown.
- Are there any relaxation, centering, coping techniques that I can teach her so she can prevent, or at least limit the onset of the attacks.
NOTE: She cannot take pills due to a physiological problem that affects her swallowing.
To further clarify, my ex wife lives in a very remote area, so support groups aren't really an option.