My goddaughter is 2.5 years old and lives in another state. We video chat every week, which she looks forward to, but I only see her in person intermittently. She is also an outgoing and assertive child, which I love, but it leads to her testing her boundaries on acceptable behavior even more then the average 2 year old.
I have pretty extensive experience with children, and so my instinct when she pushes her boundires too far is to put her in a timeout as I would with the other kids I mentor. However, her mother almost never uses timeout's with her, preferring to discuss and reason with my goddaughter about why her actions are bad, even in situations where I would usually use a time out (in addition to explaining why the actions were bad during the time out obviously).
I have the mother's full permission to use punishment/timeout when I'm visiting my goddaughter, and I often take my goddaughter out for some fun time somewhere while her mother works when we visit where I'm the sole adult anyways. I have no doubt that I can use a timeout, my concern is how effective they will be. She isn't use to the concept of timeout form her mother, and doesn't see in in person often enough to become familiar with them from me. Will she understand what a timeout, which she rarely sees, is about, and why it is happening, and/or just think it's something her godfather does sometime?
Should I be trying to better emulate what her mother handles misbehavior, or stick to the sort of timeout routine I would use with other children I mentor, and see more regularly?