They are good friends since they were 4. Last weekend at a play date at my house they were playing with my girls tablet, making toys videos (just for fun, not uploading them anywhere), filming the dogs, themselves singing and dancing, etc. Just regular kid stuff I think.
Yesterday I went through the videos and found one of them that I found really disturbing. The friend asked my daughter to show her privates and she complied.
I asked my girl about it and told her to say NO if that happened again, and to tell me right away. She said she would do that, and seemed to understand it was wrong. She has a minor development disability, I spoke to her many times about her body being only hers, to respect it, to respect others body, not to let anyone touch her, etc. I never said anything about filming it because I didn't even think about it. In the video she just looked like she was playing.
Then I spoke to the friends mom. She said she would talk to her and that she doesn't know where that came from.
I deleted the video, I'm so upset. They were good friends and now I don't know whether letting her come again.
What do you think?