My son completed 22 months and not talking with us. My wife stays at home to take care of him. Right now he says some 15-20 alphabets, 4 colors. We usually show him TV during lunch and dinner (60 minutes/day). He does not pay attention to our words. When I try to talk to him, he speaks gibberish or color he likes. He does not say, mommy or daddy. He does not point things when he wants something, we walks there and cries if he can not get it. Sometimes he does not turn back when we call his name. We are trying so hard to make him listen to our words (20 common words), but it's not helping. At 18 months our pediatrician suggested SLP, but we thought we could teach him. At this point, I feel like we failed in our job. I called SLP last week and got an appointment for the assessment. Usually, my wife feeds, cleans and changes his diaper. His physical development has been good. This has been more stress on me than my work for past couple of months. I would really appreciate any suggestions to improve his speaking skills.

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    This is a little broad. We do understand your concern and frustration, though. "At 18 months our pediatrician suggested SLP, but we thought we could teach him. At this point, I feel like we failed in our job. I called SLP last week and got an appointment for the assessment." I think this is a very good step (SLP = Speech-Language Pathologist.) He needs at least a good hearing assessment and you need some guidance. – anongoodnurse Apr 16 '18 at 12:50

Speech acquisition is highly variable. Boys are notorious for late speech. I specifically use the word "late" rather than "delayed."

Being exposed to regular speech as opposed to baby talk is all most children need to develop robust vocabularies - when they're ready to.

Although you're certainly welcome to pursue SLP, I would recommend not stressing it and letting him develop naturally. My son wasn't verbal beyond a few words until 3 1/2, and he developed normal vocabulary by 8. We were given this advice by our pediatrician and preschool teacher (he had reasonable comprehension by 3).

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    "Boys are notorious for late speech." Please add a reliable source to support this. Thanks. Also, "At 18 months our pediatrician suggested SLP..." I would not recommend against the pediatrician's advice with solely anecdotal evidence. – anongoodnurse Apr 16 '18 at 22:21
  • I hear that all the time too for boys. They are just late to talk, but no science backing behind this claim. I too would like to know why boys are more delayed? Also there are more boys that are autistic too. Is there some type of link and to what? What are some possible culprits to "delayed development" regardless if its unpopular or not. Thats my question. – Patoshi パトシ Apr 17 '18 at 19:20
  • @Patoshiパトシ You should ask this in a separate question, not in a comment. – Arsak Apr 20 '18 at 17:12

You are doing the right thing in getting professional evaluations. You are just going to have to wait for that. It's almost certain that neither of you did anything 'wrong' in parenting, but if something is wrong, you need professional guidance. And if nothing is wrong, then the appointment will tell you that.


The snapshots guidelines (https://pedscases.com/sites/default/files/SNAPSHOTS_Developmental_Milestones_Chart_UPDATED_Aug_2014.pdf) indicate a red flag if single words are not reached by 15 months and two word pairings by 24 months, irrespective of the sex of the child. They also indicate that parental concern is reason in itself to see a professional. As such, seeing a SLP is a good course of action.

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