The other day I asked my child "Can you give me a napkin?" and she said "o self" which means "you do it yourself"!
At first I was shocked, and ashamed that she has perhaps learned it from me and my wife, where perhaps my wife asks me to give her something, but then I tell her I'm busy and she has to get it herself.
I think that's partially the reason why. Now most of the time, me and my wife now try to respond and do things no matter what so she can learn.
However at other instances she asks me to do something which she has to do herself e.g. she has to clean the soda she just spilled and I tell her you have to do it yourself or you have to walk to the car yourself.
So my question is how can I teach her to clean after her own mess while I also teach her to be polite when others ask? She used to be the kind of person to not want to be carried or want to do everything herself, even cleaning up. Still now she does want to do a lot of things on her own (85%), but she's more selective. I guess you could say this is how they make their own progress!?
PS: She's 2.5 years old and I love to carry and help her, but just think she also needs to take responsibility a bit.