Really worried about my 18 year old, she has a lot of mental health issues due to being adopted. Her mom was abusive physically and verbally and left her alone in a house for the first two years of her life. She struggles with ADHD, RAD which is a reattachment disorder, ODD, depression, anxiety, and has a habit of hoarding things. She hoards things from the dirty diapers I find to food and everything in-between. She's been in therapy her whole life and it hasn't helped anything yet. I don't think punishment will work but I know therapy won't work so I'm not sure what to do.
She doesn't have a medical condition and when I ask her about it she just bluntly states that she doesn't know what I'm talking about. I'll see the diapers in her room and show her and ask her and her answer will be they aren't mine.
Several times throughout the past three years, my daughter has thrown out dirty diapers that I believe she had worn and used. And I tried to let it go, but tonight I walked in on her pooping her pants. She is 18 and is supposed to be starting college in the fall. I'm at total loss of what to do, how to punish her, and what to believe. I'm desperate to find answers.