My 10 year-old grandson hits, pushes, kicks and spits on my 7 year-old grand-daughter. He has ADHD. When she complains, he always says it’s not his fault, that it was a accident or she got in the way either when he was moving his arms or spitting, although last week he did admit that she was aggravating him so he hit her. Just yesterday he stabbed her with a pencil leaving a small bruise and scratches on her back.
He also tells stories (lies). I’ve tried everything from talking to him about the problem, talking to him in a positive focusing on him & how great he is, taking away TV time to recently spanking him. Nothing helps. I do correct her if she is aggravating him, but the main point I’m trying to make with him is it is never acceptable to hit a girl. Never!
I’ve told him if she is aggravating him to please come tell me and I will handle the situation.
He’s a good boy and is super intelligent, excelling in his school work. A very loving and sweet child other than this issue. When I have taken TV or electronics away from him, he gets so mad and gives me horrible looks and will tell me he is mad. Gripping his fist like he’d want to hit me. I am at the end of my wits.
Both parents are divorced and neither really focuses on the kids. I have them 2-3 nights a week and my husband and I spend more time with them than their parents. We try to be a positive influence on them since their parents don’t make the kids their priority. We spend time with them, going for walks etc. I know this was long and apologize. Please any advice is needed.