Frequently when I'm with my kids, people will talk to them but ask questions which are clearly intended for me or for another adult in the room. It's a strange situation where people ask my children emphatic questions, like "That's a lovely dress. Where did you get that from?" but they clearly expect me or their mother to answer it. I've seen this from relatives and friends but also from childcare professionals. Just to be clear, they do NOT expect the child to answer them at all; rather, they expect me to be listening to the conversation they're having with my child, and then to interject, supplying the answers on behalf of my child, who stays silent. For example if nobody answers then the person will look to me expecting the answer, not my child. Sometimes I'll then say something like, "I don't think she knows where we got it, but it came from ..."
It's strange because for my kids, from their perspective, it's as if we're training them to ignore questions they're asked, while also building in them an expectation for people to interrupt and answer questions not addressed to them. It's not really the way the world works and not a very good example to set.
I'm curious if anyone else notices this or cares about it. I know it's not the worst thing in the world but in the interests of lots of small improvements leading to greater change I'm curious about anyone else's thoughts or experiences.