I need help with my daughter.
She screamed in my face, she tries to block my way when I try to leave the room, she's tried to pull my hair, and she ripped a shirt I was wearing trying to keep me in place when she doesn't want me to leave.
I've tried to talk to her several times and tell her how she's hurting me and how she is hurting our future relationship. She will not listen. She always says she's sorry and she will turn around but it hasn't stopped. It's getting to the point that I don't want her around me because it's so painful.
I have been separated from her father for over seven years, for the first four years she lived with me the majority of the time. It's only been within the last two years that he wanted shared custody of her. Her father has extreme anger issues that he is now on medication to control. He displays all signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He has displayed his anger with her in the past to the point she did not want to go to his house. But thanks to a program called "For the Sake of the child" he has her 50% of the time.
I want to take her to counseling but I need his signature to see a counselor with her. Did I mention he is a control freak that will use anything he can to make me look bad in front of her? He's also trying to get total custody.
I am truly at my wits end and want things to get better. I love her so much and I don't want to see our relationship deteriorate to the point we can not talk to each other when she gets older.
She does not do this at her father's place. She does not do this with her friends, or anyone but me. She talks about the frustration she feels with her friends and family including her dad. She is the most loving and caring child most of the time, but if I look at her wrong or say anything she takes offense and she shows a state of anger that alarms me.
I've tried talking to her tell her how she is treating me is wrong and that she is actually being a bully, but she turns it around on me that I'm always blaming her and that I take no responsibility for my actions.
What can I do? I need help.