We have a 10-year-old daughter. She occasionally keeps phlegm in her mouth and plays with it. Sometimes, I see her blowing bubbles with her phlegm or taking it out and sucking it back in. It's really disgusting and we have tried many times to get her to stop but it seems like she can't help it. Any advice will be great.
Its really disgusting and we have tried many times to get her to stop
How did you? From my experience it matters, how you are transporting what you want to say, especially with children, since their ability to take your utterings to a meta-level is somewhat restricted. There are many wrong ways to say that you want her to stop
- Stop it, it is disgusting.
- Stop it, for it disgusts other people.
- Stop is, because other people will think badly about you.
- Stop it, because girls don't do these things.
You'll really have to say, what you want to say, that it disgusts you, while you have no opportunity to avoid seeing it. Tell her, that - if she really can't stop - that she can do it in another room, when you are not around. I believe that telling her to stop it at all is not the way to go, since she does not harm herself or others.