I cut ties with my child's father because he is in and out of her life and I just feel it is unfair to her. I was 16 when I had her and he was 17. I understand that we were young, but that is no excuse to not take care of your responsibilities. My child is 4, going on 5, I had her in 2012. Her father wasn't around when I was pregnant, didn't come to the baby shower nor to the hospital when I had her. He was too busy doing other stuff. When she was about 6 months old, he started to come around and then left for Job Corps.
He has had plenty of breaks to come home but he met a girl down there and would go see her instead of visiting his child. He came to see his daughter once on a break and then I never heard from him again. He blocked me on facebook and started a new life with the girl he met at job corps.
It has been 2 years now since he joined job corps and hasn't seen his daughter. We saw him one day and he started talking about how he wants to be in my daughter's life, which was a lie. A few months later we spoke on the phone and he started saying all kinds of mean and hurtful things. He started to try denying she was his, claiming I was with other people when I got pregnant. I told him that I would go to court and prove it and he didn't think I could because I didn't know his social security number. I did, and he took a DNA test that proved he was her father. After that his girlfriend broke up with him.
A few months after that, he wanted to start coming back around and I allowed him to. A few months into that, his ex girlfriend announced she was pregnant by him. He opted to go back to her and cut my child out of his life again. That really broke my heart. He tried telling me he has to get himself together and that is why he can't be in my daughter's life. That makes no sense to me because he already told me how sorry he was and how we was a changed man so I let him back in.
The woman he is with doesn't support him being in my child's life or spending money on his daughter. It seems to me that he let's her tell him what to do and control the money. He used to accuse me of that as well and call me names. I believe she cheats on him and tries to make it so he can't see our daughter. I also think she has some other man listed as the father on the birth certificate for her child.
Now he again is back to saying he can't be in our daughter's life because he has no money and has to get his life together. I am at the point where I don't want him around my child because I feel like it's not good for her to have him in and out. What should I do?