I am currently seperated from my wife and we are getting a divorce, we have two boys, aged 6 and 3.
IF during this process i was to behave in an unethical way e.g. false accusation of abuse, pursuing a course of action that will cause hardship, ignoring the wishes of the eldest child. That will cause permanent toxicity between me and the mother(who is requesting mediation), is this likely to have negative effects on the children.
Do children as they get older and understand more want to know things about why their parents split up and how they treated each other. Are they likely to see one parent as good and the other as bad ?