I'm 23 and my parents divorced about a year ago and since then, they both make me feel like I'm less important/no longer needed.
I live with my mom, she is lovely but only when the house is clean. I do most of the laundry, most of the cooking, all the dishes, all the cleaning and stuff (even her own bedroom!). Keep in mind that our house is 120m^2. Besides that, every saturday she expects me to help her at her job (5am - 2pm). She is that kind of person that you cannot explain that I have my exams and I have to take my studies time, or else that I want to see my friends. She indeed has her part in "house duties" and that is (as she understands) buying food. There is no way of standing up to her, she has excellent memory for things that you did wrong and she would not hestiate to use that against me.
Now, don't get me wrong I completely understand that she is working, she may be exhausted after work and wants just some help from her child but I'm also working, I'm trying to pursue my career at my profession. As much as I would love to help her, she is constantly outraging as soon as something does not meet her expectations, that is very sad and discouraging.
Now my father, there was never any issue with him. He is cool, calm and now he lives with another woman, she is fine I got used to her and even had few nice chats with her. But somehow, after divorce I feel like he is trying to get rid of me but he will never admit it. He sends me child support, he has to, so I guess that's not any way of showing how much he cares. Anyway the money is mostly given to my mom.
I'm very emotional about all of this, I dont want to lose contact with them at all. Is moving out the only way to free myself from my mom? How can I help my contact with dad?