I Live with my father during the summer, and I do my best to make sure that I leave the smallest footprint possible. Doing my own laundry, dishes, food, etc. I think I do a good job.
My father and I will argue about things, and when I try and end the argument, he just keeps egging it on, and then later he complains that it's a shame that we have to argue "like this". To me, he's being a drama queen.
Here is an example:
Father: [tuskiomi], Do the dishes.
Me: Aww, I didn't make dirty any of them, though.
Father (very simplified and shortened): Everyone has to help out and do chores.
Me (realising that I've dug myself a hole) : Okay, fine I'll do them.
Father: [tuskiomi], why do you always complain about things?
Me: I'm not complaining; I'm doing the dishes.
Father: I don't hear anyone else giving me any lip. It's just a part of living here..
Me: I'm doing the dishes. you can stop lecturing me.
Father: (more lecturing about how it's simply expected of me to do chores)
[some hour or two later]
Father: You know, I don't like arguing with you..
I don't have anything against chores, and I do every one that my father asks me to. I don't egg the conversation on, and I admit, I do complain, but I'm not the only one, and It's more of a vent than objection. I've told him that I'm going to do what I ask him, and that he shouldn't take the complaining personally. He took that personally as well.
Now, I'm willing to change, and I'm willing to lay terms with my father. Open to the both.
How should I deal with my father egging on a conversation that isn't worth having anymore?