My son is 3 years and 9 months old. He has an amazing personality. In short, he takes the world by his terms. He has been working on potty training for sometime now and I understand there will be bumps in the road. However, he refuses to poop on the potty.
Occasionally, if he is outside and can't hold it anymore he will drop his pants and poop in the yard, sometimes with in a few feet of the potty we have out there for him. I have read similar questions on here with responses that say there is probably some sort of fear. I just don't see it.
We also have a 4 year old little girl (who doesn't like to flush the toilet) and he will plow through anyone who stands in his way to flush the toilet for her. He will pitch a fit if he does not get to do it. I focus on what he is saying. When we tell him to or suggest that he sit on the potty he says, "No I don't want to". If we try to make him he throws a temper tantrum.
Today after dinner he was standing there crossing his legs clenching his butt cheeks. I suggested that he try to sit on the potty, he said his usual no I don't want to. When I tried to verbally persuade him he uncrossed his legs and said, "see I don't have to anymore, I pushed it back in and now it is with it's family."
I have told him he can not poop in the grass anymore and unfortunately now he only poops in his pants. We tried to get him to start wearing diapers again but he refuses and we don't want him to feel bad about himself so we dropped that idea. He is pooping in his underwear sometimes 5 times a day. Please any suggestions would be great. The reward and praise methods are not working.