My 5-year-old son is starting to ask questions and comment on the fact that he "doesn't have a dad". His biological father and I have not spoken in years, he last saw my son when he was 6/7 months old and has not made any attempt to reach out to me since.
I have allowed my son to ask questions and explained that "some families have only moms, some only dads and some families have grandmas and grandpas. All families are different, all families are special." I have also explained that my fiancé would like to be my son's dad and when he is ready, all he has to do is say so.
I am satisfied with this explanation and have left the door open for any more questions my son may ask and have explained to family he spends time with often what we have discussed so everyone is on the same page. However, one family member in particular feels the need to push me to reach out again to my son's bio in an attempt to get him involved. I feel like this is a bad idea and waste of time, if he wanted to be involved he would be right? Should I take the step of attempting to contact him (I have no idea where he is or how at this point) or do I leave it the way it is?