My wife and I are looking forward to try to have a child sometime soon. She's really excited about it, but I can't help but be really scared.
My main fear is that I want to give our child the best life possible, but I'm afraid I will be similar to my own parents. Not to bore you with the details, but my parents were not very supportive of many of my career choice and gave me a hard time for many years because I decided I wanted to be a Software Developer in the Southern part of the US.
I have already established in my mind how I want to treat our children and teach them how to interact, and love them for what they are. I want to take the good things my parents gave me(i.e., good morals, good work ethic), but not be as harsh as they were about many aspects of my life(like my dad being hard on me after every sporting competition I participated in). I've decided that whether my child wants to play soccer or be interested in doing scholars bowl or robotics, I want to be supportive of what they are interested in. Basically, I want them to find what they're interested in and give them the tools to succeed at it.
So my question is why am I so afraid when I already know how I want to parent our child?