Dad's unemployment causing a lot of stress on my mum, who works a few part-time jobs and also manages the household. I want to offer help, but now sure how to. I want to know ways to alleviate my mum's stress, ways to make sure my sisters are not affected by the situation, and ways of persuading my dad to start looking for a job.
My dad has been unemployed for almost 7 years. My mum has several small jobs so her income isn't very steady, and she is extremely busy, as she also takes care of family finances and she tries to do the housework - she's very worn out, and I'm worried about her health. Me and my sisters try to help out but we're students and we prioritise our studies. My dad helps too, but he housework isn't really his thing. He doesn't really do much. He doesn't mean to do this, I think, but he doesn't prioritise and doesn't notice that the housework needs to be done, and will only do tasks if we ask him a few times.
When I was still in school, my mum frequently vented to me how frustrated she was with my dad's unemployment, until I asked her not to, as it was hard for me to listen to her talk about my dad like this. I still don't like talking about it, but I feel like I should, as I want to understand how our family's finance is doing, and how I can help. Whenever I bring up fiances or my dad's unemployment or my mum working too much, though, she gets touchy and upset (and this makes me upset as well). My mum told me a couple of times that she's worried about their retirement, and this worries me too, since I'm not sure if I'll have a good enough job to support my parents as well as my sisters.
I plan on supporting my family as much as I can once I get a full-time job, but that won't be for another five, six years, as I'm studying for an undergrad part-time. At the moment, I only have a part time job, and I don't contribute to the family's financial needs. My mum doesn't like it when I offer to contribute to groceries, pay rent etc. My sisters are still in school and do not have jobs, and I know it costs an arm and a leg to raise kids. I want to help my mum, but I don't know what to do. I thought at least talking about it and trying to listen to her would help, but I'm not able to do this calmly, as my dad's unemployment is still a touchy subject and we always end up fighting.
How can I alleviate some of the stress my mum is under, how can I offer her help, and how do I ensure my sisters don't have to worry about this? How can I convince my dad to find a job, when my mum had not been able to do so for so long?
What can I do right now, and what can I think about doing in the future that will help my family?
Sorry about the length of this post, hoping someone has some wisdom.