When my daughter spends time with her dad she becomes a horrible brat on her return. I wonder if it does more harm than good for her to be with him.
He is very loving towards her, but not mature at all. He is 45, and at present homeless. He gives her anything she wants (that he can provide, which is not much) when he sees her. No discipline. No teaching. No role modeling. And then at home later it is HELL.
We used to live with him but it became unbearably bad. I broke up with him for constant psychological abuse and manipulation due to his mental illness. He never worked or showed healthy affection to me in front of her. He has possible multiple personalities and just doesn't have a clue but he does love her.
He chose to not be on the birth certificate and coerced me to go along with it, at the time I was very easily manipulated, now on one hand I regret it but on the other it will make things easier down the road if I decide to move away...
I used to have to tell him not to let her watch him play zombie killing games on his phone...when she was two or three... She learned all the bad words from him... Doesn't really say them anymore thank God... What can I do? I don't know how to deal with this. Don't want my precious girl growing up damaged.
I really wish I never let her bond with him because I genuinely fear he is not a good influence for her. I feel so torn though, on one hand I think a girl needs a dad but she needs a dad to BE A DAD and not just a playmate who doesn't do much of anything else.