The traditional parenting approach has been to identify the mother as the primary caregiver for kids, giving the father a more authoritative and rolemodeling status. This is also supported by scholarly evidence (eg Unemura et al, Do toddlers prefer the primary caregiver or the parent with whom they feel more secure? The role of toddler emotion).

While in united families this emphasis on the mother is less formal, after divorce there is an explicit identification of who is the primary caregiver (even if there are cases of joint custody).

My question is simply: is there any evidence that the mother is better as primary caregiver after the kids have finished the nursing phase?

  • Comments are not for extended discussion; this conversation has been moved to chat. – anongoodnurse May 25 '17 at 14:13
  • This is an interesting question but also likely to stir up unsupported debates, so until you clarify, it will be put on hold. First, your link is broken. Also, you seem to be assuming that mothers are the automatic choice for custody. Can you support this opinion with references? Are you are looking for evidence of how courts pick the primary custodian? Please explain, "While in united families this emphasis on the mother is less formal... (etc.)" Comments not requesting clarification or suggesting how to improve the question are for the chat room. – anongoodnurse May 25 '17 at 14:16
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    This board is mainly for helping solving parental problems. If you want to look at studies and evidence to back up or deny a claim, try posting your question on Skeptics: skeptics.stackexchange.com – Tom Bowen May 26 '17 at 10:42
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    I agree this is best sent to skeptics, I would migrate it if I had the authority on this board. Though in my experience either sex can be a wonderful caregiver and there are many cases where the father is a much better caregiver then the mother. statistically the mother is a little more likely to be the more dedicated caregivier on average, due to a number of reasons, but this doesn't change the fact that the decision of who should be caregiver should be done on a case to case basis with the recognition that often the father can be the better/preferred caregiver. – dsollen May 26 '17 at 14:05

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