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It seems common for people to have negative opinions or even attack women who embrace the very important role of being a mother.

As someone whose own mother is a successful professional, I fully support any woman who chooses that. So I would like to avoid discussing the rights which women already have in western nations. But it seems to have developed into an socially conceded axiom that women must prefer pursuing a career path over being a stay at home mother. There is a social stigma surrounding it and sometimes if you speak positively in appreciation of the importance of a mother's role in her child's development, people are quick to accuse you of degrading women. If you're a stay at home mom or endeavor to be one, people seem very quick to suggest that you pursue a career and almost militantly attack any suggestion that you might have a fulfilling life as a stay at home mother that will benefit your family. Sometimes this is extended beyond being a stay at home mother to treating motherhood itself as if it is morally wrong.

So this is for moms, especially stay at home moms, have you experienced such things? Are there social barriers and have they led to more tangible barriers in the way of being a stay at home mother or even just as a mother? Did this affect your decision to be a stay at home mother or not?

I realize that this can be a sensitive issue and there are some mothers struggling to cope with being a stay at home mom and then there are many cases of mothers who would absolutely love to stay at home, but feel don't have that opportunity. Maybe sometimes the grass is greener, but I would like to hear personal experiences from stay at home moms and those who have considered it. How often have you come across hostility toward motherhood and how has it affected your life and what did you do to overcome it?

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    I'm sorry but this reads like a polling question, or one asking for personal stories, both of which really aren't a good fit for the SE format. This would be better suited to a discussion forum or the chat room, possibly. – Catija Apr 10 '17 at 16:10
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    Welcome to Parenting. Unlike forums, where these kinds of questions are embraced, this is a member of the Stack Exchange Network, so is a Q&A site with specific requirements: one question with a probable right answer. I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because it is not directly involving a problem in parenting, but rather adult interactions. – anongoodnurse Apr 10 '17 at 16:19
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    I'm somewhat astonished that discussing how to cope the shaming of being a stay at home mom is considered off the topic of parenting. I see threads that even you have commented on, anongoodnurse, that were the exact inverse of parenting and not considered off topic. parenting.stackexchange.com/questions/22540/… Really, let's not shut down a question about stay at home parenting in the modern age. – user27219 Apr 10 '17 at 16:23
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    There is no silencing going on here. It's just that you're asking in the wrong place. I'm so sorry. If you look around the site, you'll see there are no questions such as yours. It's not about your issue, or about you. If you can reformulate the question to make it on topic (see close reason), I will gladly reopen. – anongoodnurse Apr 10 '17 at 16:25
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    I'll answer in comments, though, if it will make you feel better. I was a part-time SAHM, part-time doctor, which is worse, because doctors are macho people who think putting 70 hours in a week is exactly what they trained for and what is expected of all doctors. Many doctors made snide comments about it initially, and took me less seriously as a doc (until I proved myself as intelligent or moreso than they were.) I just kept doing what I was doing knowing that at the end of my life, I was not the one who was going to say, "I wish I had spent more time with my loved ones." – anongoodnurse Apr 10 '17 at 16:32