My 14yr old son, youngest of 4 (other 3 are triplets), has always been a very strong-willed kid. Over the years we have been able to channel that will thru his love of soccer.
He plays a very competitive level. About 6 months ago, his Dad was diagnosed with Bipolar, its been an extremely difficult 6 months of betrayal, loss of trust and emotional roller coasters with his Dad. I have tried to be his rock, stayed strong and made the best decisions I could during a VERY difficult time.
I have taken my son to 2 different therapists. He responded very well to therapy, he actually was the most intelligent and communicative of all 4 of my kids. Never fought me on going. At the advice of the therapist, we are down to monthly visits now, prior we were going bi-weekly. Within the last 3 months, my son has become very defiant.
Refusing to do chores, refusing to get ready for school in the AM, refusing to be ready to go to soccer practice. He is VERY lazy, refuses to do chores. He speaks back to me non-stop. Tells me to shut up, tells me I'm stupid. I recently allowed my son to have 2 friends sleepover during spring break. At 2am, I was awakened by giggling in the kitchen and caught the 3 boys doing shots of vodka.
I was tipped off by his older brother that he was juuling. (a form of e-cigarette). I searched his room and found e-cigarette paraphernalia and a condom in his wallet. How do I now deal with this? I feel like I need to send him to a boot camp for at-risk kids to nip this in the butt.
Do I approach him on my own, do I approach him at our next therapy appointment.
What if he says it isn't his? Just looking for some advice on the best way to address this.