I Have an adorable 15 month old god daughter my friend conceived via donor sperm. I was supportive of her mother's pregnancy and was named god father before she was born. I love all kids, and particularly find my god daughter to be adorable. Because the mother lives a little ways away I don't get to see her often, but when she comes to visit her family local to me I usually get a few weeks to visit mother and child.
Her mother is now married to a man she had known for a long time, but only started seriously dating shortly into her pregnancy. I know being a father was a very important to him and he was excited about that role. He is sometimes away with school and doesn't get to see my god daughter as much as he would like either right now.
Last visit with god-daughter and her mother was much longer then usual, she was staying with family for just over a month, and I loved getting in lots of quality time with my god daughter, who is excited to see me and runs to me to hold her now, very cute! However, when her father finally managed to get away from his classes to come down to join the visit as well I get the impression he felt slightly replaced due to my god daughter's excitement at seeing/playing with me in his absence. There are some exasperating details that contribute to the fathers feelings that would take a little too long to go into detail right now, but suffice to say I understand why the father feels that way, even if it is not at all my intent or desire.
I know part of the problem is actually caused by my limited visits, because when I do get to visit I give my god-daughter lots of attention since those visits are so rare and I want to make the most of them. Thus she knows me as the guy who will always be available to play when she sees me, while the father, who spends more time with her, can't commit every second of that time to playing with her they way I can during infrequent visits. Still, it results in her acting extra excited when she sees me because she knows she can get me to play with her as much as she wants. That doesn't make her love her father any less, but I understand how it can be upsetting to see her so excited to see someone else even if it's only because I 'cheat' by being able to spoil her with undivided attention more on those rare visits then I could if I was seeing her more regularly.
I don't want the father to feel replaced or otherwise feel jealous/upset about my relationship with my god daughter, and I have gone out of my way to make it clear I felt that way many times before. However, at the same time it had always been the intend that I would be the god father of the girl when my friend decided to have a child and I really love being her god father and visiting her; I don't want to cut back on my limited time with her or the quality of that time. Thus I'm looking for some more suggestions for how I can continue my role as god father and being a part of the child's life while making it clear that I still respect her father and his role and have no intent of interfering in that, I just want to be the fun uncle she likes visiting as well :)