We been having trouble with our toddler who is 1 year n 1 month. He is very mischievous but lately he has adapted screaming and resisting habit which is worrying for us. I am working all day. He is mainly with with granny and uncles and lately I been noticing, he screams while I try to hold him from stairs or stop him from doing something. He fights back and "resist", same habit has creeped into his sleeping habit while putting him to sleep. This new habit has got us worried as we think it might be changed into screaming if not sorted out. I would like to know if other fellow parents had it like that and how they overcome it.
You are experiencing what nearly every parent on earth has at one time or another. It's not uncommon, it's not malicious, it's barely even intentional. Your baby wants something and you are not allowing him to have/do it; since he can't talk about it, or bargain with you, and has little self control or inhibitions, he expresses his frustration and disappointment exactly the way you and I did at that stage: he cries. If his disappointment or frustration aren't alleviated, he "ups" his expression of his emotions a few decibels. And so on. Perfectly natural and reasonable.
What to do? First, try distracting him with something he might like - a toy, a plush animal, whatever. But he can't have access to unsafe things, and dealing with that reality starts now on a very basic level.
Second, he's sad. It's perfectly ok to comfort him. Parents should respond to distress in their children.
Third, don't get upset with him when he cries. He can't control himself. It would be like getting upset with a 1 year old because they can't tie their shoes.
Fourth, realize he will outgrow this phase with your help and gentle guidance. It's not a habit he picked up somewhere. It's a normal phase of development.
Fifth, though he won't understand for a while, start teaching him feeling words. "You want that but you can't have it. You're crying. You are sad." "You like your bunny. You're smiling. You're happy." "That's exciting!" "Are you surprised? I am!" Etc. Naming an emotion is necessary before one can deal effectively with it. A rich emotional vocabulary is a gift.
Remember, this is normal (read up on phases of early childhood if you want more information about it.) Trying to put a stop to it believing it's just a bad habit he picked up is a very damaging belief.
Good luck. As parents, we've all been there and know how upsetting hearing your child crying/screaming is.
Usually kids resist and/or scream because they know that's the way to get what they want.
My daughter learnt from other babies how they act with their parents to get what they wanted, and she tried to do the same with us. It's tough but we resisted back, never using force nor raising our voice, keeping saying "no", and waiting her to calm down, even if that would mean listening some minutes of screams.
That of course only as long as it wasn't a tantrum. If something changed in his life, stressing him, you should find out what is that, and show him it's all right.