Upon receiving the tablet, his first course of action was to install a game. For various reasons, I believe that he has proven himself to be irresponsible with such devices, and it would be detrimental to his development to have it. What should I do?
- Recent positive behavior: Starting to follow his schedule, completing homework on time albeit with constant nagging and frequent yelling.
- Recent negative behavior: He installed malware on his computer in an attempt to install video games, then denied doing so when confronted. He executed a factory-reset on dad's workplace cellphone, and he changed some obscure language settings on dad's computer. This resulted in data loss, wasted time, and lost productivity.
- I discussed with him the blunders described above, what went wrong and how to avoid them. Next, I spent some time telling him about being humble and modest, as opposed to gloating. I was satisfied with his reception to this talk and gave him the gift.
- One minute after receiving the tablet, he naturally (and to my great dismay) went gloating to our dad, who commented in a sarcastic tone: "Yes, give him a tablet because his academics are too good." Hence, a condition was implemented that he is not to install any games on it. The following morning, I found Pokémon Go installed, so the tablet was confiscated.
- The games that he wants to install seem to employ psychological techniques to produce addiction. These games do not challenge him intellectually and do not require creativity. I've seen him spend hours grinding mindlessly to collect virtual points/rewards, and I know from first hand experience that these types of games have correlated to a flat-line in my own intellectual development.
I'm ashamed to say that I yielded to my emotions in gifting him what he wanted rather than what he needed. He'd done nothing to earn this and has not proven to be capable of using a mobile device responsibly. If not controlled, it will inevitably be detrimental to his development.
I believe that the correct course of action is to ungive this tablet, but that is a can of worms in itself. This will be a lesson for me to remember as this was ultimately my decision and my naive mistake, but right now I'm looking for a solution to this. What should I do?
I had a discussion with my brother to implement some guidelines, in most part following the example provided by @thisiswhatwedo. The "no games" rule has been removed, replaced by the following:
May be used only after all assigned homework/tasks have been completed for the day.
May be used for maximum of 1.5 hours in a day, noncumulative.
Generally not to be used in public, ultimately at the discretion of adults.
Tablet will be stored by an adult when not in use.
Must mute speakers or use headphones/earbuds when prompted.
Application installation and removal are decided by adults.
No food or beverage during use.
Hands must be washed prior to use.
We mutually agreed to these rules, and I'm satisfied with this arrangement.