My daughter wants me to create a Facebook account for her; I told her no. But I didn't really think about what she wanted me to do for her. I have Facebook and she sees me on it all the time, so she wants an account. I dont know if its ok for n 11 year-old to have Facebook account. She feels bad because all her friends have Facebook and their all the same age. I'm not sure what to do with this situation, whether to create one for her or just be stern and say stick with 'No'.
Create one with her She is 11 and close to puberty, if puberty starts to kick in you will loose most of your control over her and she will start to follow her own head. if you wait till then you are dooming her to make all the mistakes by herself, like uploading things she shouldn't or post private data.
If you do it now, you can teach her how to behave online and to stay save. She can learn from your experience and avoid many bad mistakes.
And ignore these age restriction nonsense. Age restrictions these days are pulled out of thin air from old people that can't do more than open a window in Windows, if these people would have to live with the consequences of their age restriction, they would be different.
If it is against the rules on Facebook and your child is asking you as a parent to lie or cheat for her, the answer has to be no. You are the bar. The up side is she is still asking you.
Facebook specifically states that a user must be 13 years of age in order to create an account.
Even though your daughters' friends are all on facebook and somehow have accounts (i'm assuming are also less than 13 years of age), you have to teach your daughter that it's important to follow the rules. It's important to teach her that these rules are in place for a reason. It's to protect her and boys/girls that are younger than 13.
The other alternative that you may want to consider is creating a 'family' account, so she can communicate with her friends, but she's also aware (and others) that all activity can/will be monitored by the household and parents.
Best of luck,
When my daughter asked for a Facebook account, I said yes, and sat with her as she tried to put in her information, knowing that Facebook's terms of service restrict user accounts to 13 year olds and older.
She wasn't old enough, and Facebook told her so. She begain to change her birthdate, to make it look like she's old enough, but I stopped her.
I said I said you can have a Facebook. I didn't say you could lie. Saying you were born two years ago isn't true. If they won't allow kids under 13, you'll just have to wait. I don't care what "all" of your friends do. I'm not their dad, but I am yours and I am responsible for you."
Additional Warning: Make sure you check her mobile phone/computer/etc. There are many prediators out there who prey on young girls. A girl my daughter went to school with was murdered by a man she was interacting with online. We live in a peaceful, rural community so it can happen to anyone.
I know that times change, and social media is trending now, so it's understandable she wants to fit in, but she's too young, not just because Facebook said so.
I think the best would be to sit down with her, and discuss the whole thing. I don't think you should allow her to create an account, but if you just say so, you would only be distancing yourself from her.
Ask her why she wants to use Facebook, why she needs it. I bet she doesn't have really important reasons, she's only 11, it's just a peer-pressure kind of thing, but listen to her anyway. Let her feel, you care about what she thinks and feels, and you just want what is best for her.
Tell her, how important it is to be trustworthy - follow the rules of Facebook, and follow the rules in general. Also, you need to discuss the dangers of social media, and the Internet, even though she probably thinks she knows it all.