My 16-year-old daughter has not been seeing her father since we divorced (in 2008 on the basis of infidelity (from him)). We live cities apart.
She is against of having any relations with him. I was always for they keep relationship with each other, but he was absolutely unresponsive. She likely feels attitude and does not want to have any contact.
I want to do it for her because responsibility on me is bigger than I can bear and I am afraid I can be not giving fully what she will need for life and also can be doing it myself on the expense of my health that I will need in the future to support us, as I am under tension and constant stress.
He does not feel any responsibility at all, just paying very small amount of (for an Eastern European country) aliments. He never contacted her after divorce, they met twice, both times when she needed to take passport and his consent with it. In the past I gave him her email in hope he would write to her, but it did not happen. Now, I had an idea to give him her phone number and by the viber or other apps they could interact with each other, but she opposes it categorically.
I am not sure if I should do it without her consent. Also in the viber he has his current family's photo that can be traumatic for her.
What should I do?