I’m 26 and don’t get along well with my dad.
One of the things that really irritates me is that he always agrees to something, but then complains how much it’s inconveniencing him, or says he’s in a rush or is making large sacrifices to do it.
For example, we both enjoy swimming and he was about to drive to the swimming pool and had invited me. This wasn’t planned and he asked if I would be ready in 10 minutes and I said yes. He got very mad that I took 12 minutes to get ready. Whenever I tell him I don’t like it when he rushes me, we get into an argument. I asked him why it was such a big deal that I was two minutes late and he said it’s because traffic gets worse every 5 minutes, which probably isn’t true. (He also said some other stuff, like he needed to get groceries later.)
Also when I graduated from school he was the only family member who came and he tried to rush me because he said he had work to do.
I’d like to learn to avoid being with him when it’s just the two of us but I always forget.