I'm his older Sister, 15 years old and my Brother is only 13 years old. He has been very addicted to the computer, online games and apps on tablets. Although this may seem like a common problem for his age, I'm sincerely worried and tired of his attitude towards the people around him (including me) that had resulted due to his addiction.
I believe it started a few years ago, when he started to mix around with negative mindset people, and has since started to feel that he deserve much more for what he 'has' done so far. And hence ever since then he started to become demanding and not understanding towards my parents, he would compare my parents with his friends' parents; and asked them why he couldn't have a certain brand or game, like them. When we tried to explain to him nicely, he wouldn't listen, and always showed an attitude.
My mom will always be kind and understanding towards in, and I my opinion to forgiving towards him. She would often give way to him, by merely chiding him that there should not be a next time. But when my mom could not handle his gradually bad attitude, she would share with my dad, who only grown up with the method of being harsh. Hence, my father will be very strict and would came home sometimes, and had resulted in my brother being more violent.
Now, when anyone tried to reduce his usage of computers, he would start to scream at us, even at my mom (who has a heart disease). He would then start to argue, and claim that we are unfair towards him. He would always give that look towards us, and make my mom flare up. This causes a war, almost literally. Somehow it always result in the same thing, him screaming at all of us, and we have to deal with his horrible attitude. He recently would even hit, kick and slap us, when we tried to hold him from running out of the house or from trying to hit my Mom.
While I do kind of understand where is point of view is coming from, like perhaps he wants 100% equality, and he doesn't believe in paying more respects to those older than him. And I also understand that perhaps it is really because he does not have a phone unlike me or my older sister, but really this is because he has not proven himself to be capable and worthy enough.
But I'm so tired of his attitude, his shouting; and we have tried all methods within our means that I'm really at wits end!!:( I really really need advice, because even after all these I know he's still my one and only brother.