My fiancé's nephew is 4 years old. He refuses to show respect and manners to adult figures; he constantly cusses (his favorite word is "wtf bitch", and he says it to me only.)
He also constantly hurts animals by pulling their ears and tails so hard they try to bite him. The dog has never bitten anyone before (she's a very good dog) and he chokes our other dog, when he hugs him. I've repeatedly told him not to treat animals like that. I've explained why he shouldn't, but he just smiles and does it again.
When I discipline him, he just throws a fit and screams. He acts out in public. His fits are ungodly and I spank him for misbehaving, and he's terrified of the belt.
I've tried just talking to him, but he refuses to look me in the eyes or even look at me when I'm talking to him. He ignores me and everything I say.
We play cars, we play in the pool. He gets plenty of positive attention. I watch him all day. We play games and when play time is over, he acts out.
He throws things. He kicked my fiancé in the face last night for no apparent reason. When I asked him why, he said, "Because". "Because" is his answer to everything he does wrong.
His parents have made him our responsibility. How do I change his behavior? I need to know because this has got to stop!