I have 3 children. The oldest one, a girl, is turning 5 in 2 months, her brother just turned 4, and the little one just turned 1.
The oldest one will literally push her brother out the way to get in the bath first or in the car first or to go say hallo to grandma first, and if she did not succeed or if she does not get acknowledgement right away she will cry or fight with and hurt her brother (he is a special boy and prone to let people hurt him and say nothing). When they play outside and do something special and I am called to come and look, if I look at his achievement first she will be very upset, cry, scream, runaway, or be a miserable sister to her brother.
I have tried yelling, bribing, over cuddeling, very affectionate, reading stories, paiting, ignoring, but nothing is working, she still wants to be first and still bullies her little brother but loves the baby. She can be really spiteful and mean to her little brother if she does not get first acknowledgement in everything, even as much as a morning kiss, she must be first.
I am starting to get worried that I will never manage to get her over this. Any help would be greatly appreciated.