My 5-year-old son demonstrates really bad behaviour which is embarrassing and upsetting me. This has been on going for the last 4 months.
At home, he is extremely naughty, and just doesn't listen to anyone (Mom, Dad and grandparents). He will neither take a telling nor do anything he is asked to do. When being told not to do or doesn't get what he wants he has a terrible temper tantrum, he will hit his grandparents, scream at the top of his voice, throw things that he gets in his hands, pull the hair. A very upsetting part is using bad words (I really have no clue where he has been learning them) and talking beyond his age (e. g. he says "I will leave the house and go and will not come back").
His behavior is not consistent as he doesn't do this at school. He doesn't want to go to tuition or read or write (forced to put him in tuition because he just doesn't listen to us at home) and is extremely slow in reading and writing. He gets distracted very soon. He has a lot of interest in dancing, swimming, skating, and music classes. We have also enrolled him in all these classes except music.
When he is in a good mood to listen and when told in a polite way he listens to what I tell, but he listens to it hardly for 10 minutes and not beyond that. We have already tried not letting him do what he likes; We have tried confiscating toys, giving time out, making him stand out, talking to him, giving no reaction, just ignore, and really some times hit him badly, but just nothing works with him. We have also told him if he is not been listening to us he will be sent to hostel and he is not going to stay with us; he says he is ready to go to hostel. He is just not scared or worried about anything or anyone in the family.
I am extremely worried and scared thinking of him and his future because of his behavior.
Please advise me how to control him with all these tantrums/habits. We just want him to be a decent and obedient child.