This question has been on my mind for a long time now since I saw my aunt talking to my little cousin (let's call him Luke) a while ago, in a way treating him as "stupid" (I've tried to avoid saying "stupid" but I can't think of another way of explaining it).
Basically, when I'm with him (he is 7 years old now), we talk about a lot of stuff, the universe, videogames, films, cartoons, all the things we both like. I'm more than 10 years older than him but I still talk to him as I would talk to any other human being and I feel that he enjoys being treated like this instead of the way that parents normally do with their kids.
An example of this behaviour happened recently:
We were having lunch together, he was sitting next to me while his mother was in front of him. He said that he was going on a trip with his school next Friday to see an important book (let's call it "X Book") at the town hall. I didn't know what it was so I asked him like this:
- What is the X Book, Luke?
Then, after him not responding for a second, his mother asked him the same question, only phrased differently, like this:
- Yeah Luke, tell us all what the book is about and why it's so important.
Something close to a teacher proudly asking a question of their most advanced student.
What happened next was him feeling shy as he was suddenly the centre of attention and then leaving the table without saying a word.
It's really hard to explain by writing but I guess some of you may have experienced this as well and know what it looks/feels like.
So, the question is, why don't parents treat their children normally instead of doing this?