The kids of my GF, 14 and 11 respectively, have that annoying tendancy to nag at each other when night time is coming. Teen girl likes to pout and teenage boy thinks himself as some kind of prima donna that like to be respected.
Please find the kind of scene/play, I'm witnessing
TB: Let me show you, the pictures I've taken from entertainement park
TG: Oh this is the rabbit I draw (she goes to the screen and point that out to us)
TB: TG! Are these your pics or mine? Do you want to show them or should I???
Mom: Let me do a charade
TG: Oh! I know this charade! I give you the answer
TB: No! Me first!
TG is unhappy and pouts
TB: Hey TG, are you ok?
TG will not answer because she pouts due to sensitiveness over different topics
Luckily, they don't do it often but when they do, I'm at loss at what I should say if I should say anything. Usually, I'm taking a back seat and it is like I'm having to endure a bad play, a funny bad play I would say but still a bad play.
My aim is to get minimal peace of mind when I'm arriving at home, but if I want that minimal peace of mind, I have to intervene (or I think I do). One of my belief is I should intervene only if their behaviour are going out of hands and that they should find a way to deal with their issues or simply to be able to behave properly, despite the tiredness/emotional upheaval.
I'm bit at loss between strict authoritarian rule and too much laissez faire. I know the limit is between the two but I could not find my balance yet. I know that their mum should be doing the discpline but she has more of a friend's attitude toward them and sometimes just sometimes, she has a all or nothing attitude, yell or unconditional love.
I'm also a bit at loss because, well , it is a teenage boy and also a teenage girl
Most likely, my question will be very much opinion based but to be honest, your insights are more than welcome as I'm learning parenthood and hopefully, becoming a decent one.