Recently an issue has arisen with my 13 year old son and a girl he was "dating". While they were dating, I was one of those parents that always went through his phone and read messages.
I was relieved when they broke up because some of the things she was saying to him made me nervous.
At school two weeks ago she was calling him names, telling him he was worthless, and just kept pushing. He then retaliated and said he hated her and wanted to slit her throat. (He doesn't really; he was angry.)
We spoke about dealing with anger and being hurt in different ways, e.g. try to stay away from her and avoid any potential of having an altercation. We spoke about the severity of death threats and the repercussions. Then today he said something to her out loud on the school yard to the effect of "you're going to get raped someday".
I have not spoken to him yet, and I am unsure as to how to approach this. He is generally a really good kid, good manners, well behaved, helpful...
I think that these two kids are just toxic for each other.